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For myself, I don't agree with those sayings either, but at the same time, I don't agree that doing and living a recovery program of some kind, you know?
For me, I started with AA, did a supervised 30 day detox, and a 2 month rehab stay.
But dating is an event that you choose for yourself, not one forced on you like losing a job, death/illness of a loved one, etc.
Why would you want to make things harder for yourself deliberately?
I tend to think you're also shortchanging yourself and not giving yourself time to heal. Likewise, I would strongly advise most any normie to not take up with someone who is less than a few years sober.
If the idea of a year without dating causes anxiety or seems impossible..you might have other issues.
I think the idea of not pursuing relationships or new careers or moving to a new state or even going back to school in the first year of recovery is a good one. But that is all the more reason to keep everything else as stable as you can. I've been in and out of the program for quite a while.
I didn't drink and it made me stronger and more confident in the end, but it was the first time I dealt with some of those emotions sober in 20 years and it was a little hard to handle at first. Like many things in AA, the admonition not to date or make major changes in the first year is based on something that makes sense: the idea that in early recovery folks are still whirling around and need to take some time for themselves to regroup. Also, marriages, existing committed relationships, and children can't just be shelved for a more convenient time.
But it does ignore the fact that life still happens, and can't be ignored on the basis that one is in one's first year of recovery. At the same time, though, I think that getting into a NEW relationship is probably not the best idea in the first year or so after one quits an addiction...even longer.